Why The Silent Treatment Never Works And 6 Ways To Communicate Better

Your silence says more than you realize. And everything it says is hurtful.

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Does your partner just stop talking to you when you have a dispute, or when you do something he or she isn’t happy about? How is that working out for your relationship? When your partner gives you “the silent treatment” to show disapproval, they’re broadcasting so much more about themselves.

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But is there a reason why partners do this to each other?

  • She wants to demonstrate power in the relationship (It doesn’t!)
  • He thinks you’ll give in without him having to do or say anything (Not likely!)
  • She’s willing to punish both of you by withholding love and/or intimacy (Ouch!)
  • He lacks the skills to communicate, and won’t risk trying (Buck up!)
  • She remembers a previous argument that didn’t go so well (So what?)
  • He’s afraid he’ll lose the argument if he opens his mouth (Get better skills!)

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And you have a part in all that, too. Apparently, you two didn’t learn how to communicate better, especially when things don’t go well. Always look at your part first when troubles arise; don’t resort to blaming as your default.

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A man in my anger management class asked me, “How long does ‘the silent treatment’ usually last?” Interesting question, as I just taught how the cold shoulder is one step toward escalating anger and violence, and he really sat up and took notice.

I asked him, “So how long does your wife go without speaking to you?”

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“Six weeks.”

“Oh, that’s the more than the cold shoulder AND the silent treatment. That’s being frozen out completely.”

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He needed to know that this was probably because she did not know how to communicate better about difficult things. She may feel afraid to bring things up because it previously didn’t go well with him. Or, she learned to bottle things up when she was still at home with her family, and now doesn’t trust that things with him will turn out any differently.

I suggested that she probably wanted to talk with him, but needed to feel very safe doing it. She probably longs for real partnership and feels very cheated that she can’t safely share her feelings with him. That would be a good thing to talk about very soon.

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Was that their issue? Did he want to listen? Was he able to really listen? Or, was he afraid of hearing that he was failing in some areas and that possibility scares him?

It’s common for folks to get scared, and then get very defensive. That often even escalates into anger.


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It’s very touchy. People can react in out-of-proportion ways when they feel that someone is attacking their self-worth, but it’s likely that’s not what’s going on at all.

One couple I worked with finally admitted — not easily — that no matter how gently the husband tried to bring up things they really needed to talk about, the wife shut him down and made him wrong. She could not tolerate the idea that there was anything wrong with her, her approach, or her style.

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